Ready for my profound answer? I still don't know. I honestly can't figure it all out. There are some things that I can look at and understand but others that just never really make sense.
For example, I am a fixer. I like to make things ok. I like to solve problems. I like to walk with people through trials. To help them make sense of what they are going through. I like to see relationships restored. I like to talk things out.
I am not normally one to sit by and watch while someone is hurting. I listen and offer some sort of encouragement. Depending on the person and situation I might even add some advise (yes, while they can be the same, advice and encouragement can be pretty different).
My husband, John, gets annoyed when shopping with me. Never fails that someone, smiles and says Hello. I do the same and if you are in close proximity they usually start up a conversation. He is more of an introvert. He likes to stay more to himself. He can't understand how the constant download from strangers isn't super annoying to me.
What drew us together? Two people who are so very different.
A crazy, energetic, people loving girl. A quiet, funny, introverted boy. I pull him into a social life that he is unsure he loves. He helps me realize that down time and quiet is a must. We need it to recharge. I might need a little less time than he does but we all need it.
People are drawn to John. He pulls in people that wouldn't really be drawn to me. His way is softer, quieter. He moves at a slower pace. It takes him a little bit to warm up to someone.
I am loud and silly. I like to laugh. I make fast friends. There is another difference, I would classify a "friend" differently than he would. I have MANY friends. He would say he has just a handful of friends. He would use other descriptions for people, IE: Coworker, family, neighbor etc.
I am very thankful for John. Without him I wouldn't be nearly as grounded as I am. He stretches me. I choose to try and see why and how he deals with life. Maybe it is something that will make me a better person if I do it to...then again, maybe not.
Now that doesn't mean we don't disagree, cause we do! HELLO, we are normal people!
In all the ups and downs of this world I know that there is one human that chooses me. Of coarse I also choose Him!!! We aren't stuck. We chose. Even when I am difficult he still chooses me. When he is being a hermit, I still choose him. It makes my heart happy to know that no matter what comes we are both 100% set on our choice.
I still love to think about why I am the way I am and why I think the way I do. But what it all really boils down to, I am so very thankful for a Godly husband! No matter how different we are, we work! We say yes to thinking outside of our comfort zones and yes to working together to both be stretched. Yes to a life together that we wouldn't have by ourselves.
I have wondered, in the past, who I would have been on my own. I can't even imagine that! I have been the later half of "John & Colleen" for the better part of 17 years! That's right 17! Married for almost 14.
John keeps me grounded in a wonderful way. I love that I can feel secure because I know he is steadfast.
So now when I think of who I am and why I think that way I think....some of that just might have some of John mixed in it. Pretty amazing how that works!
Thank you Jesus for teaching us about grace, patience, kindness, love and joy through our spouses and loved ones!!!
I am not normally one to sit by and watch while someone is hurting. I listen and offer some sort of encouragement. Depending on the person and situation I might even add some advise (yes, while they can be the same, advice and encouragement can be pretty different).
My husband, John, gets annoyed when shopping with me. Never fails that someone, smiles and says Hello. I do the same and if you are in close proximity they usually start up a conversation. He is more of an introvert. He likes to stay more to himself. He can't understand how the constant download from strangers isn't super annoying to me.
What drew us together? Two people who are so very different.
A crazy, energetic, people loving girl. A quiet, funny, introverted boy. I pull him into a social life that he is unsure he loves. He helps me realize that down time and quiet is a must. We need it to recharge. I might need a little less time than he does but we all need it.
People are drawn to John. He pulls in people that wouldn't really be drawn to me. His way is softer, quieter. He moves at a slower pace. It takes him a little bit to warm up to someone.
I am loud and silly. I like to laugh. I make fast friends. There is another difference, I would classify a "friend" differently than he would. I have MANY friends. He would say he has just a handful of friends. He would use other descriptions for people, IE: Coworker, family, neighbor etc.
I am very thankful for John. Without him I wouldn't be nearly as grounded as I am. He stretches me. I choose to try and see why and how he deals with life. Maybe it is something that will make me a better person if I do it to...then again, maybe not.
Now that doesn't mean we don't disagree, cause we do! HELLO, we are normal people!
In all the ups and downs of this world I know that there is one human that chooses me. Of coarse I also choose Him!!! We aren't stuck. We chose. Even when I am difficult he still chooses me. When he is being a hermit, I still choose him. It makes my heart happy to know that no matter what comes we are both 100% set on our choice.
I still love to think about why I am the way I am and why I think the way I do. But what it all really boils down to, I am so very thankful for a Godly husband! No matter how different we are, we work! We say yes to thinking outside of our comfort zones and yes to working together to both be stretched. Yes to a life together that we wouldn't have by ourselves.
I have wondered, in the past, who I would have been on my own. I can't even imagine that! I have been the later half of "John & Colleen" for the better part of 17 years! That's right 17! Married for almost 14.
John keeps me grounded in a wonderful way. I love that I can feel secure because I know he is steadfast.
So now when I think of who I am and why I think that way I think....some of that just might have some of John mixed in it. Pretty amazing how that works!
Thank you Jesus for teaching us about grace, patience, kindness, love and joy through our spouses and loved ones!!!
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